judgement

this morning i was having a shower and was reflecting on the past year. i've been trying to be more patient, more open, and more forgiving. i don't know that it's evident yet, but the effort's been there. i was thinking that i should have added less judging, afterall, who am i to sit on my throne and make judgements? so i thought about it more...

people often talk about how they don't judge people and how it's not anyone's place to judge another. i've decided that i disagree. even meyers-briggs says i'm a judger. and i am. everyone knows it. i think i judge my own actions as harshly as i do that of others (maybe i'm wrong, but that's your decision!). it's a combination of fearing those criticisms and the conclusions that go with judging that keeps people in check. it's moral law.

i think it's good to forgive... it's much healthier if you can do it. besides, the path to nirvana needs you to realise that you cannot control other people's actions, only your reaction. then again, if you go the christian way, your life ends with the ultimate judging: from god.

conclusion: maybe i should work on my reactions... and the becoming less judging will follow naturally.